I Just Don't Understand

Sickness in the World

Published on June 30, 2004 By CS Guy In Home & Family

I just don't understand some of the sickness we see in the world. Take this
extremely sad situation. What drives a man to do this sort of act? I've always prided myself on being able to step into other people's shoes and view the world from differing perspectives, but I just can't get my head around someone like this. Is this evil incarnate? I need to go find something a little more pleasant to contemplate.

Comments

Gerry Atrick

on Jun 30, 2004

very, very sad.......I am staunchly opposed to the death penalty but cases like this test even my convictions.

ShadowWar

on Jun 30, 2004

CS,

I normally don't post in forums about these type of things (for reasons that will be come obvious here) but I thought you might like my insight. You see I have been a police officer for 24+ yearsin a busy, high crime area. In Florida. I know that may not be popular with some but hey. Most of that time in South FLorida in the Ft. Lauderdale area, I patrolled a crack ridden, high crime area for about 4 years and then transfered to Homicide, were I was for 7 years.

That said here is my insight into this type of crime/incident. There is a place inside each of us that contains a very violent, animalistic being. In most of us that is suppresed and controlled by our other feelings, compassion, honor, right and wrong and so on. But in some of us there is a time, a place, or an incident that triggers that animal response, and we lose control of the inner animal. Some of us have a higher threshold for that trigger and some of us have a lower trigger point. I have seen things that some humans have done to others in the name of love, hate, anger and such that would make you lose sleep for years. I have. Nightmares also. Some just lose it. Are they insane? I don't think so, I think they have just let that animal inside come up to the surface and take control. Even if its only for a short time. This man that killed his family and tried to kill the ex-wife and son, he lost control of that animal. He needs to be put away or killed depending on your view of the capital punishment issue (thats a whole seperate forum).

I think that maybe we need a little more dose of this now and then to realize that it is out there and we need to be careful. Just know that it is out there and there are those of us that take care of people like this, shall we say taking the trash out. Next time you hear of a story like this and think how awful, think about the poor sap of a cop who had to be the first one on the scene and deal with the death and injured. Makes the pay seem like a whole lot less. As long as we are humans we will have these type of incidents.

God take pitty on his soul and those of his victims.

CS Guy

on Jun 30, 2004

Thanks for the input ShadowWar. And just for the record I would like to also thank you for your service to society. I have a great deal of respect for people in the military, police, fire departments, and similar occupations.

As a teenager I worked in a movie theater, and on weekends we had Sheriff's Deputies working security. In-between busy times I had the opportunity to talk with these men and I developed a great appreciation for the duties they performed and sympathy for the attrocities they had to face.

My father served 3 tours in Viet Nam, and it was only in the past few years that he has been able to talk about his experiences. As a child I would see the subject raised and see the look of total introspection that crossed his face. It was something he had a hard time dealing with, but being the man he is he overcame his nightmares (to some degree at least).

So to say it once again, thank you and thanks to all the men and women like you.

Kayles

on Jun 30, 2004

Wow, I'm stunned! I couldn't even finish the article. I am divorced from an abusive husband myself, and that was the scariest thing I have ever read. My ex has been to anger management counseling several times. We are at the point now, where we can sometimes talk civilly. There are still times when he gets grouchy, but it's nothing, compared to the way he acted in the past. I will tell him I won't be treated like that, hang up with him, or tell him to leave my house, and we won't talk for a few days. The thing that worries me, is that I know he has a marajuana and alcohol problem. He has my older two kids almost half time (thank you so much, "for the father" Colorado!) I worry that he will get inebriated and be unable to control himself. Eventually, I will save enough money to get a lawyer and take him back to court. Until then, I pray for my childrens' safety as well as his every day.

CS Guy

on Jun 30, 2004

I'm sorry to hear that Kayles. The Southern Gentleman in me can not stand to see a lady in distress. I hope your ex comes to realize the truth of the saying "It takes a man to be a father". I've lived in Colorado for about a year and a half now, and I am always amazed at the number of boy-men I encounter. There seems to be a whole culture of drugs and alcohol that goes on way past the typical college life (thank Boulder for that I think). I think a lot of the men here suffer from the increasing deficiency in responsibility and consideration of consequences that has plagued this nation of late.

Kayles

on Jun 30, 2004

Reply #5 By: CS Guy - 6/30/2004 2:31:33 PM
I'm sorry to hear that Kayles. The Southern Gentleman in me can not stand to see a lady in distress. I hope your ex comes to realize the truth of the saying "It takes a man to be a father". I've lived in Colorado for about a year and a half now, and I am always amazed at the number of boy-men I encounter. There seems to be a whole culture of drugs and alcohol that goes on way past the typical college life (thank Boulder for that I think). I think a lot of the men here suffer from the increasing deficiency in responsibility and consideration of consequences that has plagued this nation of late.

I fully agree with you, and I agree with a lot of things that you have said in past articles. I think that my exhusband's maturity level stopped at the age of twelve, when he first started using drugs. I think he will eventually be able to grow up, but his growth is somewhat retarded due to the drugs. I am very proud to have exricated myself of the situation, however. My poor children will have to deal with it as they grow, but if I install values and morals in them, they will see the difference of right and wrong.

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