Random thoughts, observations, and opinions of a software engineer in corporate America.
A White Man's Dilemma
Published on July 12, 2004 By CS Guy In Blogging
If I person is an ass; if a person is hurtful to others; if a person places the happiness and well-being of others below consideration; then this person is probably someone I will not like. And in many cases I would like to be able to tell this person, or tell the world, how I feel. But often that action is not socially acceptable.

Why? The answer is simple: I am a white heterosexual male middle-class American. And because of this I am not “allowed” to offer criticism to anyone who is not like me. If I do I am a racist, sexist, homophobe, or in some other manner a beast of discrimination.

If I speak out against the racial discrimination of Affirmative Action, then I am myself labeled a racist.

If I speak out in favor of Israel, then I am a racist.

If I speak out in favor of profiling at airports, then I am a racist.

If I speak out against women in combat, then I am a sexist.

If I speak out in favor of tighter immigration control, then I am a racist.

If I speak out against illegal immigrant amnesty, then I am a racist.

If I speak out against some asshat who happens to be black, gay, or female; then I am racist, homophobe, or sexist.

Oh how I long for the end of racism, sexism, and other forms of unfair discrimination. I just want to get to the point where I can hate someone for who they are without being accused of hating them for what they are.


Comments
on Jul 12, 2004
I feel you... Oh BTW.. I saw your picture on Dharma's "Show and Tell" article.. you're a cutie! do you want to see me? if so I can e-mail it cause my computer is dumb and won't show my pic on her article..

Ashlee
on Jul 13, 2004
Nothing wrong with speaking out. Just try to do it with a little class.
on Jul 13, 2004
I understand completely where you are coming from CS Guy. However, hate is an ist/ism condition--including hate against ist/ism.

Something I have to remind myself of constantly.
on Jul 13, 2004
I don't find that any of the above complaints have been curtailed or prohibited in the public sphere. Watch Fox News every once in a while and it starts to feel as if nothing else is said.

Anyone who calls you anything as all-encompassing, and non-specific, as racist, sexist or homophobic during an argument or discussion obviously can't argue, or feel incapable of arguing, with you about the issues at hand, so i probably wouldn't be paying much attention to them anyway.

Marco
on Jul 13, 2004
I understand completely where you are coming from CS Guy. However, hate is an ist/ism condition--including hate against ist/ism.


Well, I'm using "hate" as a surrogate for the feelings I really have since I find it almost impossible to actually hate someone. I may pity them, I may feel anger towards them, I may even want them removed from our world (and this has always been a practical and unemotional decision)... but I almost never actually hate them.